MFM Mini - Stop Living Hour-to-Hour

All right, I don't know who needs to hear this, but for somebody, this is gonna be a bit of a game changer. I know it was for me. The other day I was talking to my trainer. I was running late to our session and I get there and I'm slipping on my shoe, like kind of like, you know, trying to get it over my heel. And I'm like, oh man, sorry, I, you know, I had to do lunch for my daughter, but then she spilled it everywhere and then we were cleaning it up and then she blah, blah, blah. And then, you know, and then I had a podcast this morning and, you know, I ran a little bit over. So then I had this call with my boss, blah, blah, blah. I'm telling him all my excuses, right, of why I'm— I'm just trying to say why I'm late. And he goes, bro, I don't care if you're late, but I don't want you to have a day like that. I said, oh, well, you know, you can't control all these things. He goes, well, you can. I go, what do you mean? He goes, well, you can't control that your daughter's going to spill the food or that your podcast's going to go over, but you can control how you experience it. And I go, oh man, here we go. What's the lesson? And I was like, you know, I wasn't ready to hear it, but He gave me some gold. He goes: Let's just like listen to the way you were talking— he goes forget the words, just listen to the rhythm of it. It was da-da-da-da-da-da this and then that or this and then that. That's living like an itinerary, like an agenda. And when you do that, it sucks the fun outta life. You're doing this and then that and then this and then that. Well, you're just rushing from one thing to the next, and in doing so, not really enjoying all these different experiences you're having. This is a life you crafted! Look at where we are. Look at your backyard. Look at this workout we're about you're talking about what you're doing with your daughter, you have a podcast, you have all these amazing things you created, but then look at how you're treating them. You're just, you're treating them like a job, you're treating them like a task, you're treating it like an agenda. I said, well, what do I do instead? He goes, stop living hour to hour and start living experience to experience. What does that mean? He's like, so don't think about life like, okay, at 9:00 I gotta do this call, then 10:00 I have to go here, and then 11:00 I have to do this meeting, and 12:00 we gotta record, and 1:00 PM I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this. Because what happens is you're gonna start running late and then you're feeling like you're losing time. You're just gonna constantly be focused on the time you don't have. Instead, when you focus on experience to experience, you say, all right, what's this experience right now? Right now I'm recording this podcast. I'm putting out some wisdom into the world and I can just imagine people on the other side are gonna be hearing this and thinking, you know what? So true. So true. I'm gonna try that. Right. You know, it sounds like work for him. I'm going to try it for me. And then after I'm done with this experience, I'm going to click stop. And instead of thinking about what's the next thing I have to do, what's the next thing I get to do? What am I going to— I'm hungry. What am I going to eat? I can eat leftovers in the fridge. Is that the experience I want? Maybe I'll cook something. Maybe I'll go try that place I saw yesterday. Yeah, let me hop in the car. I want to go have that experience. And then when I'm in the car, am I going to focus on the traffic? The waiting, the heat, or am I gonna say, what experience am I gonna have here? I'm gonna, you know what, every time I see somebody on the road, I'm gonna try to get 'em to smile. That's the experience I'm gonna have right now. I'm gonna be, just through my facial expression, I'm gonna try to get them to smile. Or I'm gonna listen to music, I'm gonna jam out. That's the experience I'm choosing to have. And so what that does, when you start focusing on, hmm, what experience do I want next? You're like, you're at a Michelin star restaurant, and you're ordering off the menu. I, I'll have one of them. I'll have one of these. Oh, I want that experience. Gimme that one too. Uh, gimme that dessert, right? That's what life feels like instead of living off the itinerary. So this has been a pretty big game changer for me over the last month or so is get off of time. Everybody's worried about time. They're worried about age. They're worried about lack of time. Too busy, too much. Forget time. Start focusing on I'm gonna go for, I'm gonna hop in my day instead of hopping from hour to hour. I'm gonna hop from this experience to that experience and this experience to that experience. And then in doing so, you're gonna start to choose those experiences wisely. And you're gonna start to savor those experiences and fully enjoy them when you do them. And that makes you a happier person. So try it out. Stop living hour to hour. Start living experience to experience.